Turn On and On and On, BE.

No one is coming to turn you on. Not your husband. Not the right mood. Not the right moment. (Sorry, not sorry.) 😛 In my 1:1 work with women, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard proclamations like… Arousal has to happen spontaneously for me to want to make love. My man should be able to read me without me having to say a word. Maybe the spark just dies after 10 years together? 🤷 All of these complaints are methods of outsourcing your Turn-On. And really: who can blame us for thinking this way? We've lived through decades of implicit and explicit propaganda that said a powerful libido belongs to women who haven't yet navigated the particular gauntlet of midlife. Or buttons-flying, hair-pulling eroticism is strictly a function of the honeymoon phase…. That the right man should just know how to satisfy you, and if he doesn't, he’s out. Barry, I want to scream this from the rooftops… 💣 Your Turn-On is your responsibility. 💣 No, it’s not a comfortable thing to hear. Yet it may be the most liberating reframe available to you as a woman. Because, if your Turn-On is your responsibility, it means it’s always already at your fingertips. ❤️‍🔥 You don't have to expect your partner to read your mind. ❤️‍🔥 You don't have to wait for the right mood to descend. ❤️‍🔥 You don't have to accept low libido as an inevitable feature of "menopause" or "perimenopause." Far from being a spontaneous lightning strike, Turn-On is a daily practice and a way of life. The woman who enjoys white-hot pleasure inside the bedroom has been a devotee to her own sensory experience all day long: noticing what enlivens her, prioritizing what brings her joy, and building a celebratory, approval-based relationship with her every impulse. Barry, what you may be calling a libido problem, a relationship problem, or a perimenopause problem is actually a Turn-On problem. And Turn-On is a skill! Like any skill, Turn-On has specific components: some psychological, some mechanical, some that require nothing more than directing your attention in a specific direction. On Wednesday, August 12 at noon ET, I’m going LIVE with a very special guest to deliver the permission slips, erotic mechanics, and soft skills for more pleasure in and outside the bedroom. We’re exploring vital terrain, including: ♨️ Why taking responsibility for your Turn-On unlocks massive dividends (think: financial expansion, dialed-in creative output, and becoming the main character in your life) ⚡ The 4 Turn-On myths keeping you tense, tight, and pleasure-starved + how to jailbreak each one 👏 The maturational arc of sexual reclamation: Why you must titrate into the woman you judge before you can ever dream to embody the “High-Value Woman” you want to be 🌹 Turn-On troubleshooting: why “low libido” is almost never the real problem + the glitch shift that short-circuits stale sex + expands your erotic range 🪄 The anatomy + mechanics of self-pleasure & why anyone can experience powerful libido at ANY age or stage Barry, pleasure is a practice. And like any practice worth having, it can be learned, honed, and deepened for the rest of your life. So I can honor your attention & your inbox, let me know if this is for you: YES: I'm ready. Save my seat for Turn-On Training. 💋 NO: Thanks, but this isn’t my focus right now. Please mute these invites. XO, KB